A teenage love story Sunday, January 18, 2009

My opinions about Sarah and Musa's relationship and marriage

The marriage between Sarah and Musa is quite tricky to understand. Some people think that Musa only made use of Sarah, while others think that it really was about love. If I have to be honest I think that Musa only used her. She was so young and he was six years older then her. Perhaps many of you out there think that the age is just a number, and that it doesn’t matter if your in love. But of course it matters in such a young age! A twelve year old is still going in sixth grade and have a lot of years left in school. An eighteen year old, has just take the upper-secondary final examination. And that is a very big difference! Moreover, a twelve year old girl isn’t fully developed and it’s very rare that an eighteen year old finds a twelve year old attractive. I think most of the blame is on Sarah's parents, who didn’t take sufficient responsibility for Sarah. They said that they wanted to see her happy and that she was, with Musa. Actually this kind of upsets me. As a parent you tends to be very overprotective. If you have enough sense in the head as a parent, you should be aware that a girl of twelve years old doesn’t have enough experience to know what real love is and especially not know how she want her life to look like in the future. A girl in such a young age doesn’t think that far, and that’s one of the main reasons why we have our parents. They should give us advices and help us to made the right decisions. We all have been in the age of twelve and we all remember today what it was like. But we didn’t got married when we thought ourselves to be in love. In the text that we read about Sarah she says that she never had any confidence and that she never felt pretty until she met Musa. This may be one of the reasons why she fell in love with him. He made her feel beautiful and important, and she hadn’t felt that feeling before, to feel appreciate. In this way, I get a slight feeling that Sarah wasn’t enjoyed her previous life. I don’t think she had so many friends at school, perhaps she was excluded. Therefore, she wanted to be with Musa even more. Moving away from everything and start a new life, isn’t something easy and painless. But in Sarah's position, it appeared as something you do every day. That’s why I have this feeling. She wanted out of there and start something new. But everything between Sarah and Musa went to quickly forward and they never got a real chance to really get to know each other as individuals. So Sarah and Musa's relationship ended shortly thereafter. Together they had a son, Sarah has custody and Musa doesn’t help her, neither with money or aid. Musa got married with another woman in the turkey, and together they had a daughter. Sarah who moved back to her parents had a brief relationship with her neighbor, they also got a child but they have even less contact than Sarah has with Musa..that’s really weird. I think Sarah is very irresponsible. The relationships she has been involved in, has never worked out, and there she is.. without job and own income with two children whose fathers are not there for them.